It’s 5:02am, I’m jamming picking Thursday tunes. I have so much fun deciding what to play each week. I hope you enjoy as much. I cover the years this week. Set back, adjust headphones, volume up and flash back to the memories. XO Warrior
All he said was your daddy has done away with himself. I screamed then said on the way. Calling right back to ask were they sure he’s dead? Yes. I think years of abuse left a permanent hole in my heart. I go there to do actions requiring no emotions. It’s like auto pilot, it has served me well. I started to think about work, who I needed to call. I’m driving with emergency lights on going 100 mph calling my work team. I stayed in auto pilot until I pulled up to my grandparents.
My father and I were estranged for many years. I thought it odd when he started calling. He sounded delusional and extremely paranoid. Nothing made sense, he was not talking in sentences. I pieced together he didn’t have any money and couldn’t work. Why he could not work must have come from the madness.
I would do anything to avoid my granny being hurt. I paid his bills. Over the next several months the phone calls were my hell on earth. He would threaten to kill himself then go off on what didn’t sound like words. I couldn’t make out anything he was saying as he yelled in the phone. I would keep trying to redirect him back to our conversation. I did not tell anyone what daddy said. He was mentally ill. It had been years since we talked, maybe this was his norm. I didn’t know.
Everyone sitting in the floor when I entered the door. The first words out of my mouth were he told me. I felt overwhelming guilt, I let my family down. I knew it wasn’t logical but emotions rarely are. My mind scrambled, my father sexually abused me and I’m feeling guilty. I forgave my father, cut him out of my life, paid bills and feel guilty.
My grandparents and I went to daddy’s the next morning. The disarray would alert anyone something was wrong. On his coffee table, his lockbox open with every card I had ever given him, every school photo. The divorce paperwork to my mother laid on the table, his bible open to Job. You could see tear stains on the pages. The house had papers scattered everywhere, dishes piled up, everything thrown around. My father had reached the bottom long ago and no one knew.
I found a shoe box full of cassette tapes from recorded phone conversations. It took seven months to listen to every tape. I would have a couple of drinks, listen and cry. Like a tornado in my head, being in the house my sexual abuse took place, daddy putting 357 mag to my head, being a drug addict and my boyfriend and I planning how to kill my father. These are the times the hole in my heart is useful. Granny didn’t know about the abuse and went to her grave not knowing. To help my granny cope, I would not cry or show emotion around her. I wanted to piece her heart back together. Holding emotions inside extended my grieving process a long seven years.
A couple of weeks later the morgue called asking me to pick up the gun. Ring the side door bell, someone brought the original suicide note, autopsy report and gun with dried blood. My mind could not prepare for reading the autopsy report. Every detail of how he shot himself. The trajectory of bullet, lobes damaged, bones crushed and exit wounds.
I believe my father died so I could live. Learning about his mental illness pointed me to my own. Thru ancestry I connected with daddy’s half-brother and several family members. There were over ten suicides in only three generations and many now with severe mental illness.
A couple music favorites from my wild child days. By 12 years old I already lived a lifetime, the drugs probably kept me alive. Read my About Me page and you may agree. I would break a kilo of marijuana down to four finger bags in a couple of hours. Using old fashion sandwich bags, just roll and lick to seal. My 21-year-old boyfriend was a dealer and we would sell kilo in two nights. This became our Friday ritual every two weeks. There is a long story behind how a drug addicted 12-year-old missed out playing with Barbie’s. I had Angels guiding my path. XO Warrior
Louise is crazy funny. Don’t let her humor fool you. I love her honesty and cheeky humor.
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A lot of people’s worlds come crashing down when they’re diagnosed with a horrific disease. They were doing ok before, and then they get news that the future is now going to be filled with suffering and uncertainty. It’s awful. But people forget that there are also times when a diagnosis of a horrible disease is nothing short of one of the happiest days of your life. It’s right up there with wedding days and even that time I had a poo tsunami in my local A&E department at 1am one January morning after a week of horrific constipation. Let me explain… At the age of 26 I got sick. I bumbled along with my ‘mystery illness’ and still managed. Then at 27 I got severely sick and was completely bedridden, months went by and doctors didn’t have a clue what was wrong with me. I was constantly having to…
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XO All my love
This Throw Back Thursday is a peek into my heart. For me a good love song is all about conviction of the words. Joe Cocker is one of a kind, he doesn’t sing well but I love his music. This particular Joe Cocker video touched me because of the tribute to Princess Diana.
Sit Back, relax and take the words in. XO Warrior
Thank you for the loving words, I cried. Payback is comedy!!!!!!!!! This is the dance we are taking on our world tour! I can see now, The Sexy Twin Tour. :) XO Warrior